Of dreams and foolish preparations.

Sometimes, we spend most of our lives preparing for something.. We put-off a lot of life risks because we think we're still not prepared enough; thinking that we will be more ready next time.. next month.. next year.. 

Some say that it's not necessary to get all your bases covered before making a move on your life because it will just give you a false feeling of preparation. You think you got it all prepared for all possible turnouts but when you actually move, it's still different than what you are expecting then boom you get disappointed. No matter how much you read and ask about it, you won't know something unless you actually try it. Just prepare as much as you can up to a certain extent and let your courage follow through. 

The Hard-Won Lessons of the Solitary Years

"Most important, I’ve realized I never needed a long boyfriend résumé for the experience. In the 20 years before I met Him, I learned a lot of hard lessons: how to be a self-respecting adult in a world that often treats single people like feckless teenagers; how to stand at cocktail parties while my friends’ in-laws asked me if I had a boyfriend; how to have warm, friendly dinners with strangers I had met online as we delicately tried to determine whether we could possibly share our lives together; and how to come home to an empty apartment after a rotten day at work. I realize these less-than-giddy examples may conjure up those deadly words: “desperate” and “pathetic.” But I wasn’t desperate. If I had been desperate, I would have settled for a relationship I felt ambivalent about because I was afraid to be alone. Instead, I learned to relax into the open space of my quiet home and unknown future. I also learned there is a difference between feeling something unpleasant (loneliness, longing) and being something shameful. 

 Being a single person searching for love teaches you that not everything is under your control. You can’t control whether the person you’ve fallen for will call. You can’t force yourself to have feelings for the nice guy your best friend fixed you up with. You have no way to know whether attending this or that event — a co-worker’s art opening, a neighbor’s housewarming — will lead to the chance encounter that will forever alter your life. You simply learn to do your best, and leave it at that. 

Relationships are work, but so is being single, and I became pretty good at it."

-The New York Times